It’s nice when you can say, “I DID IT!”
As great as a feeling that it is – it’s a tiny bit false – in fact it’s almost a lie!
When you say “I” it implies that it was all YOU. I do not know of anyone, including me, who has done it ALL BY THEMSELVES. The truth is, each of us has had some form of help along the way.
Some would argue, “I did all the grunt work and I made all the sales!”
Okay – I’ll give you that but – Quick question – WHO DID YOU SELL TO?
Someone had to say, “YES” to your offer. You are not alone!
The point of all this is if we try to do anything ALONE…it’s a lot tougher. If you think you are alone – you’re wrong. 100% WRONG!
You have to make a conscious choice to be alone. With information at the touch of a computer mouse or cell phone there is no reason to be alone.
“What do you mean Gerry?”
Let’s say you have a business problem that you need help with. You can go to the Internet and GOOGLE your favorite GURU and get tons of information for free right off of their website. You’re not alone!
What about a spiritual problem? Any Pastor or Priest, Rabbi or Imam will speak to you, all you have to do is ask! You’re not alone!
“Oh Gerry, you’re so successful now you can afford all these people!”
Yes, I am successful AND it’s because I continually asked for help throughout my life.
I’ll admit, the first time I asked for help – I had to swallow my pride. I thought I should bear the weight of the world on my shoulders and show everyone how tough and how smart I was.
Well, as you probably know from personal experience – I found out that the world is pretty heavy when you’re carrying it alone.
Another surprising fact – most of my best counsel was at little or no cost. I learned so much from my financial mentor before I ever gave him a dime. His advice and wisdom was so sound I made a lot of money. Naturally I hired him to tell me more and his wisdom took me to millionaire status in one year. I wasn’t alone.
I was blessed to study the wisdom of Norman Vincent Peale, Dr. Robert Schuller, Dale Carnegie and Napoleon Hill to name a few. What did that cost? Truthfully, about ten or twenty bucks per person. I found answers to many of life’s perplexing problems in the pages of their books and autobiographies. TWENTY BUCKS for a lifetime of wisdom!
That’s an offer you can’t refuse. You are not alone!
Sometimes people reach out to you to help and you turn them down.
Why? Pride usually.
I will be eternally grateful to my Spiritual mentor, Norm Sharkey. Norm refused to give up on me when I was at my lowest point in the late 1970’s. Because of Norm’s advice, wisdom and persistence I was able to stop drinking and I’ve been ‘on-the-wagon’ for over 40 years. Norm showed me grace and genuine love and taught me to stop judging people. I wasn’t alone!
My amazing wife, Anne, was my rock through all the ups and downs of this dreamer’s career. It was Anne’s unconditional love that turned me from a dreamer to a DO-ER. She raised our three boys, sometimes single-handedly as I traversed the world in search of my dream. I wasn’t alone.
Those same boys that Anne (and I) raised are all married and have become magnificent men in their own right. A short while ago, while I was dealing with something that weighed heavy on my heart, my three sons were able to relieve some of the pressure and offer me rock solid counsel. Arrogant Dad’s wouldn’t let their sons help them. My sons were honoured to help me and it was a blessing to receive their wisdom. I wasn’t alone.
Go to a seminar. Learn from someone who has mastered the skill of alleviating the pain that you’re dealing with. You are not alone.
Fall on your knees and pray to your God. I guarantee He listens. You are not alone.
I have benefitted from the counsel of others most of my life (after I let go of the need to be perfect). As you have voluntarily appointed me as your Weekly Mentor – follow my advice and find a friend, a colleague or a personal mentor. You are not alone.
Do not try and figure this out all by yourself. LONELY is a choice – YOUR choice.
Choose wisely. Choose to reach out and seek out wisdom. It’s the WISE choice.
Once you’ve done that I know I’ll see you in the Winner’s Circle!