“Oh my, it’s raining again… There goes my day!”
I actually know of a person who says the above statement EVERY TIME it rains. I thought he was kidding until I observed his behavior. I tried to reason with him but he would have none of it. “Rain ruins my day!” he insisted. “It’s a good thing you don’t live in Seattle!” I joked. He didn’t laugh.
He didn’t laugh…hmm… He also didn’t have a lot of friends. He doesn’t have a great retirement and he has a hugely negative outlook on everything and almost everybody.
Some people complain about the heat. It’s too hot. It never rains.
No matter what happens – there will be people who automatically put a negative spin on it. Your favorite sports team just won a playoff series and some will say, “Yeah, but they won’t win the next one!” It’s almost like they think they will get rewarded for being a Nay-sayer.
I was born in the 1950’s. (I know, I don’t look it – thanks!) J. I have lived in seven different decades now. Here are a few observations from seven decades of paying attention to human beings – or – humans being:
There are always those who criticize, condemn and complain.
There are always those who have a positive outlook.
There are always people griping about the economy.
There are always people winning in any economy.
There are always bad news days, wars and terrorists
There is always something to be thankful for – some people who are heroes in the face of destruction and people who stand up for what’s right.
What’s the difference between winners and losers? It’s simple – MIND SET!!!
Losers have their mind ‘SET’ on looking for an excuse and looking for someone to blame.
Winners have their MIND SET on finding a way to win and bringing their teams along for the ride.
Losers are skeptical, scared and unsure.
Winners are confident, optimistic and solution oriented.
I know that Losers WANT to win…they HOPE to win…and yet – will find a way to lose.
I know that winners WANT to win and they EXPECT to win…they’ll find a way to win.
Let’s make a deal – You and I – right now…Let’s make a TRUE commitment to notice and acknowledge anything negative and immediately turn it around. For every negative you hear from someone else (or say yourself) – find TWO positive turnaround statements.
It’s raining! – 1) The flowers will love this and I don’t have to water my lawn.
2) I can stay inside and play with the kids (or make some calls)
It’s a slow economy! – 1) Most of my competitors also think it’s slow, I’ll use this time to
increase and improve my marketing.
2) This is a great time to personally visit my clients!
I don’t have any support! – 1) Who can I help achieve a dream? Then I’ll ask them if they
know anyone who wants to be on my team.
2) Who can I partner with on specific projects? Who would appreciate my talents and who has talents and gift that I can use?
Here are three DO IT RIGHT NOW things you can implement immediately:
STOP reading the newspaper and watching the news on TV
START reading biographies of successful people who have beat the odds.
STOP blaming the past and wallowing in your old ‘crap’.
START today, right now, to focus on your objectives and your dreams.
STOP putting yourself down – mentally, verbally and emotionally.
START affirming your talents, your gifts and your generosity.
One thing I get my audiences to say out loud is a simple yet uplifting affirmation that can be said anywhere at anytime: I’m ALIVE. I’m WELL. I FEEL GREAT!
Let’s do it three times to conclude this article.